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Our hope is to help men who are trying to come to terms with their sexuality. It happens more than people think and not because straight guys are forced into it.

In my case it was mutual. Nothing romantic happened after, but it was still a lovely evening.”

Your Authentic Self Is Your Greatest Strength

There’s no strict rulebook to guarantee success on a first gay date.

That’s when me and Dale started talking about 69 and what that might be like. GIRLFRIEND’S BROTHER

“When I was back in high school, I dated this girl from my neighborhood. But when we weren’t at work, we did make out a few times and more. AFTER A FEW DRINKS

“I was 21-years old and spent most of the summer working construction to make extra money for college.

Before the Date: Set the Right Foundation

Know What You’re Looking For

Before making plans, take a moment to reflect on your true intentions:

• Are you interested in something serious or just a casual meet-up?
• Are you emotionally ready to meet someone new, or simply testing the waters?

Being upfront about your goals — especially if you met on a dating app like Grindr, Tinder, or a gay-specific platform — helps set clear expectations and reduces the risk of misunderstandings.

Choose a Comfortable, Public Spot

Opt for a location that encourages conversation and feels safe for both of you.

The weird thing is the girl and I never messed around – not even once.

I don’t consider myself gay or even bi.

CAMPING IN WISCONSIN

“When I was 25-years old, I took my little brothers on a camping trip to the Northern woods of Wisconsin. If it lasted more than 15 seconds I’d be surprised. We were both curious I guess.”

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19. He had one of those Joe Weider flat benches, which back then was kind of a big deal.

Over the course of time, we got closer and closer.

Not sure if it was his build or what but I just I just know that I liked him.

Just before graduation, we ended up hooking up off-base. Extra Tips for Gay Dating Success

Avoid Making Assumptions Based on Labels

Don’t box someone in with labels like “top,” “bottom,” “masc,” or “fem.” People are multi-dimensional.

Sometimes he’d pass by room [dorm] and say hello. I applaud you for having the confidence to pursue your newfound desires. I remember him undressing and noticing how much bigger he was than me.

He must have caught me eyeing him because he laughed about it. Avoid the pressure to perform or impress; instead, focus on connection, communication, and enjoying the shared moment.

Whether the outing leads to love, friendship, or just a great story, every date is a step in your journey — and that’s always meaningful.

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