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Straight men who have sex with men have no fear or disgust around this. I hear from men like this who insist that they didn’t see this as cheating on their spouse because they were just having sex with a man, even though they aren’t attracted to men. They didn’t confuse the acts with their sexual identity.
The good and bad of labels
At some point in our sexual experience, labels can be important—quite liberating and affirming.
They’re attracted to sexual behaviors with men, not necessarily to the men. Youthful Noticing: In your youth, do you remember crushing on other boys or men, being distracted in the shower by the sight of naked men, or masturbating to other guys? Perhaps we are looking for transcendence. The longing for that experience is universal. Care to share on the blog?
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Some of them had no father or other male attachment figure, they may have been disenfranchised by other males growing up, and have a deep desire to connect to another male.Again, too many labels are set in stone. On the other hand, labels can become confining rather than enlightening. Some straight men enjoy receiving anal sex, and if they can’t get it from their wife or female partner because they feel judged or shamed, they turn to other men.
Why do straight men have sex with men?
There are many reasons, which I’ve discovered through my therapy practice:
ChildhoodSexual Abuse.
The Beach Test: When you’re on the beach, who do you find yourself looking at more, women or men? Men with gay or bisexual erotic interests, if honest, will report they are mostly attracted to men’s fit bodies. Sex is one of the few experiences that take us away from our daily, sometimes boring, lives.
Orgasm may be one of the only times we are fully present in the moment.
Transcendence doesn’t get much attention these days.
When it is stimulated during anal sex, a much more pleasurable orgasm can be achieved.
4. It allows for nuance. Hook ups can leave us empty. Many boys while growing up participate in secret bonding experiences with other boys by masturbating together, and even masturbating each other (circle jerks). They often don’t tell the whole story and can keep us in a mental box that’s at odds with our evolving eroticism.
Most often they grow up to be happily married to a woman, never having thought of themselves as gay or bi.